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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:41 am

anyone ever just like, upended their whole life -- your career, your friend circle, your haunts -- without actually, you know, physically moving?

what's it like

mostly thinking here about doing it voluntarily and not in response to a death or a firing or a breakup, though i suppose insights into those situations are not unwelcome
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Postby mactheo » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:42 am

where do you live?
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Postby razzle » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:44 am

Think it depends where you live. I mean I kinda tried to in Pittsburgh but then I just stayed at home most of the time lol
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:45 am

mactheo wrote:where do you live?


mactheo are u trying to dox me :(
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Postby mybeardhurts » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:46 am

too poor to even do that but YES
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Postby Dead_Wizard » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:49 am

my friend did this for years, like he told everyone he moved away then stopped responding to emails and phone calls. Eventually his spot was blown when he ran into someone at the grocery store; turns out he just moved into a trailer in his dad's backyard. Would not recommend if only for how paranoid of a headspace it would put you in.
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Postby New Improved Alaska » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:51 am

Are u sick of ur friends
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:53 am

why do you think i'm posting here again
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Postby New Improved Alaska » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:54 am

F
alaska1 wrote:I always look to something new amazing for more pleasure.
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Postby jacopo » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:57 am

laserblast wrote:anyone ever just like, upended their whole life -- your career, your friend circle, your haunts -- without actually, you know, physically moving?

what's it like

mostly thinking here about doing it voluntarily and not in response to a death or a firing or a breakup, though i suppose insights into those situations are not unwelcome


yes, but all of my friends are already in other cities

I also wouldn't wanna bike/walk the extra blocks to start frequenting a different neighborhood
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Postby warmjets » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:57 am

are you moving to arlington
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Postby tolka » Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:59 am

i have progressed beyond this childish concept of "having friends"
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Postby shark week » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:03 pm

start doing new activities and make friends with those people

there are probably thousands of orgs/interests you could pursue where you wouldn't find much crossover from your previous friend circle
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Postby New Improved Alaska » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:03 pm

alternatively, move to providence and play chrono trigger with me
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Postby Actor Jason P » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:05 pm

are you at least going to change your name?
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Postby hazel » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:05 pm

wait are u staying in the same apartment or just the same city
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Postby New Improved Alaska » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:05 pm

chairkicker is already coming over to play through panzer dragoon saga with me once i get my STEAM DECK. its gonna be sick
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Postby Actor Jason P » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:08 pm

i already have 3 separate families i have to keep secret from so I'm out of identities
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:09 pm

theoretically i could 'hang out' with 'hipinioners' in 'this city' some of whom have posted in 'this thread'

i like you lot

i will visit providence and we will play thru both trigger and cross and also the super weird text game that only came out in japan

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_Dreamers
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Postby clouds » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:10 pm

Dead_Wizard wrote:my friend did this for years, like he told everyone he moved away then stopped responding to emails and phone calls. Eventually his spot was blown when he ran into someone at the grocery store; turns out he just moved into a trailer in his dad's backyard. Would not recommend if only for how paranoid of a headspace it would put you in.


Whoa

I admire this willpower
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:17 pm

warmjets wrote:are you moving to arlington


i'd rather kms
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Postby Real Real Real » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:17 pm

starting over in the same city B/w always crashing the same car
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Postby grayfox » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:50 pm

Am I not a good enough friend?
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:55 pm

grayfox wrote:Am I not a good enough friend?


you're a wonderful pal and also you basically live in siberia
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Postby laserblast » Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:57 pm

does 'virginia' even exist? an inquiry
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Postby Greetalia Guggers » Mon Sep 20, 2021 3:30 pm

this sounds easy to do if you move to a space that doesn't exist actually
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Postby delgriffith » Mon Sep 20, 2021 3:33 pm

yeah i sorta made friends when i switched fields (sorta) and took a class in my late 20s. i think i made a thread about it at the time but the hardest hurdle for me to get over was just like, asking someone to be my friend lol. but it worked!
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Postby window » Mon Sep 20, 2021 3:43 pm

changing jobs, esp to one where you have like-minded peers, is one way to do this

having a kid helps bc you kinda just start hanging out with other parents out of necessity
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Postby mactheo » Mon Sep 20, 2021 3:44 pm

laserblast wrote:
mactheo wrote:where do you live?


mactheo are u trying to dox me :(

yea
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Postby mactheo » Mon Sep 20, 2021 3:45 pm

no it definitely probably depends on the city, like in pittsburgh i imagine it would be kind of hard because unless you get into a new scene entirely, you'll see the same ppl if you pursue your interests
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